Today it blew me away. You can call it coincidence or put it down to chance, but I don’t really believe in those concepts. When I logged on to Facebook this morning, the first thing that popped up on my screen was a couple new pictures of my niece. Now there’s nothing strange about this in and of itself; I usually tend to see my sister’s posts at the top of my feed since we interact with each other so much.
What struck me was the quotation she had used to accompany her photos:
"The soul is healed by being with children." ~Dostoyevsky
It’s not really a well-known saying, as far as I can tell. But I recognized it right away. Why? Because I had used it to caption a photo of my daughter on Facebook. Huh, that’s funny, I thought to myself. I guess we have similar taste when it comes to literary quotes. Must be in the genes!
But there was more to it. I remembered the image of my daughter I had posted: she was in a spirited mood that day, hiding behind the sheer drapes in my sister’s living room. The play of the light combined with the far-off look in her eyes gave the photo an ethereal, otherworldly feel. She looked like she was caught between two dimensions.
I realized that I had taken the photo about a year ago, definitely at the same time of year, since I remembered us housesitting for my sister and her hubby. On a purely psychic whim, I clicked on the “On this Day” feature on Facebook that lets you see what’s happened on the same day in past years of your life.
I want to point out that although I’m signed up to receive this purely nostalgic update every day, the notification always pops up at night, so I hadn’t had a chance to see it yet. Even before I clicked, I knew what I would see:
March 23, 2015
"The soul is healed by being with children." ~Dostoyevsky
So not only did my sister and I pick the same (somewhat obscure) quote to accompany pictures of our daughters, but we posted it on the exact same day, one year apart.
I immediately thought that she had somehow seen my old photo pop up in her feed. Maybe she just liked the quote and decided to use it. Only she didn’t. She was never tagged in it.
So here we have this “meaningful coincidence.” It’s not a huge thing, but to me it’s a weird and wondrous event all the same. It feels strange because we can’t explain it in conventional ways. It definitely makes me think that there must be more happening on this earth than we understand.
My sister believes it could be some sort of message from the universe, and I tend to agree. What it means, we can only guess at.
A couple weeks ago she sent me a photo of my niece dressed up in cute outfit that used to belong to my daughter. The bow-tie onesie and pink skirt didn’t come together as a set. It struck me because I remembered my daughter wearing the exact same combination of clothes. They didn’t really go together, but babies look cute in pretty much anything.
When I put the photos of our little girls side by side and sent them to my sister, she was surprised. She had put the outfit together completely at random, and didn’t remember my daughter sporting the same look.
All these little synchronicities, signs and similarities in our mothering experiences are a comfort to me. They remind me that it’s a blessing to go on this parenting journey in tandem with her.
I’m excited that our daughters will get to grow up together. They aren’t that far apart in age, and funnily enough, they also share the same star sign and colouring.
Whatever the future holds for them, I hope they they become kindred spirits and friends, just like their mothers. I also hope they keep their hearts and minds open to all of life’s possibilities and beautiful mysteries.
As for me, I just have one simple message I’d like to send back to my friend, the universe:
I’m listening.